My wrestling partner is God, not humans. I must deal with God first, just as Jacob wrestled with a mysterious figure at the Jabbok River. We often feel good or bad by comparing ourselves with others. We often get stuck in a small world of competition and survival. However, we must overcome a competitive mindset. From God's perspective, we are all dust and need mercy. Fellow humans are not the object of a fight.
If there are issues with others, we must fight God first and ask why we are here in the world. We can ask lots of questions. Then we can deal with ourselves and others. Like Hannah, we need the time of prayer and discernment, which is a process of our transformation. Like Jacob, we first need to wrestle with God.